A good way to think through that first step, identifying drivers and constraints, is to frame the negotiation in terms of the alternatives available to the various parties. A powerful question is what each party will do if they can’t reach a deal. That captures what FBI hostage negotiator Chris Voss calls the “Substance” of the negotiation: the various elements for discussion that will ultimately add up to the description of the deal.
The next step in our analysis framework is assessing how the various parties progressed through the negotiation. From start to finish, how did they go about the discussions? This is mostly a negative analysis: the question is whether either party made a major mistake. Voss calls this “Structure” and “Style”. Structure is about what you do and when. Style is about how you do it.
Structure relates to the sequence of actions, the logic behind your moves, and how you set up the conversation. Your counterparty may not have good alternatives if they can’t come to an agreement with you, but that doesn’t mean they will automatically give you everything you want. What you conceal or reveal, what you ask and say, and in which order… it all affects the outcome that will eventually result. One example of a basic negotiation mistake is not making your concessions conditional. If you offer to give something up, make it conditional on getting something in return.
Counterintuitively, constantly arguing your own side and trying to prove your own points is also a structural mistake. Negotiation is not about scoring debate points, it is about reaching an agreement – which implies you’ll have to understand the fears and concerns of the other party. And just like there’s a Pirate Code, there’s also such a thing as a negotiator code. It’s unprofessional to have to walk back or be unable to deliver on what you agree to. Likewise, professionals don’t bluff: they lose all credibility if they can’t follow through on threats they make.
Style refers to the way you deliver your message. Negotiators are still human beings, and your tone of voice, inflection, body language, and overall demeanor may also affect proceedings and outcome. Style is about how you make the other person feel during the negotiation. In most cases, a calm and constructive tone yields the best results. But if a firmer or more abrasive style is called upon, the professional negotiator should be capable of dealing with that too.
Matters of structure and style don’t just relate to your own conduct, but also recognizing (and dealing with) what the other party does. It’s not a given they will play nice, and you’ll have to handle it if they play dirty. After all, even the Pirate Code it’s not hard rules so much as guidelines…